Players are people who use others for their gain. They might be social climbers or serial daters. They are not in it for the long haul. No serious-relationship-commitment types here. How do you spot them? Easily. Do his/her eyes wander when you are having a conversation? If you are not the center of attention, and he is looking for the bigger, better deal next door, run fast. Demand to be treated with dignity and respect, and you’ll weed them out really fast.